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Attorney-Mediator Ethics

A client calls a divorce attorney and asks if the attorney mediates divorces.  The attorney invites the client to come in for a consultation, during which the attorney will determine whether the client’s case is better suited for litigation or mediation.  If the client is accepted as a mediation client, then the attorney will welcome the client’s spouse to the next meeting.  

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What Is An "Attorney-Mediator"?

A divorce attorney-mediator is a neutral professional (as distinguished from an advocate) who uses her legal skills to serve both spouses — coming from a place of complete neutrality.

Read more on this website about the definition of an attorney-mediator.  Read also how an attorney-mediator is different from other types of mediators.


Halloween Is Coming

Is there any good reason why two divorced or divorcing spouses cannot put aside their disputes for a few hours on one evening, and share Halloween trick or treating together with their children?  It can be—pardon the word—tricky, but it can be done.

Remember, you don't have to be arguing in order for your children to feel the conflict between you and their mother/father.  So don't just watch your tone of voice and your words; watch your attitude.  If you can keep your focus on your children's costumes, the mapping of the trick or treat route, the bag of treats (no dipping!), and taking pictures of how your children look (adorable, of course), your focus on them and on the occasion should help keep adult feelings out of a children's holiday.

How The Issues In Divorce Have Changed—Part 2

Part one of this article posed the following: We live a world fraught with economic crises across the globe, a national jobless rate stuck at over 9%, a continuing decline of housing values, an increasing number of houses under water, and a government that seems unable to move us out of this cycle. Couples who face divorce in this climate are apt to feel that the loss of their marriage is equivalent to the loss of the only safe place left for them.  That often leads to such a sense of despair that it can only be described as a feeling of hopelessness.  …

How The Issues In Divorce Have Changed—Part 1

For nearly a quarter century, the majority of divorces that passed through my office, both as an advocate or litigator for one client, or as a mediator for both spouses, concentrated their focus on at least one of the three following issues: (1) parenting (or custody); (2) dividing up all the assets; or (3) alimony. There was the occasional divorce that argued ad infinitum over who would get a couch or whether there should be visitation rights with the dog. …

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